Tue, 10 July 2018
EP 108: Why Marriage Shouldn’t Be Run Like a Business and Many More Vulnerable Discussions w/ Adrian Nez
Hey y'all, this is Trevor with Carrots coming at you with another episode of the CarrotCast, and I am actually on my parents' back porch right now in Klamath Falls, Oregon at nighttime. It's 9:42 p.m. One of things that's amazing about the Oregon summers is it takes forever to get dark here. I love it. It's not light, it's definitely nighttime, but it's definitely pretty ... I'm outside reading right now still. It's pretty crazy, so 9:42 p.m. I'm looking at Venus up in the sky, and I'm thinking about this episode that you're going to be listening to right now on how darn important it is in the whole scheme of things.
My good, good friend and obviously Carrot team member, Adrian Nez, actually spurred on this episode of the CarrotCast. We were on a team call about a week or two ago as of the time we recorded this, and he said, "You know what, Trevor, I've got a podcast idea that I really want to pitch you and I think it's important." We hopped on a call, and within 15 seconds, I'm telling him, "Dude, we are doing that because that's so important."
You're going to hear some massive, massive vulnerability from Adrian himself who's going through some big hard, emotional things in his life and his marriage right now.
You're going to hear from me with some of my struggles in my marriage and some of the struggles that I'm going through. It's not struggling with our marriage per se. It's struggling that, how do I make it better? How do I serve my wife? How do I serve my kids much better than I am right now and how do I make sure to put them ahead of certain other things?
This episode is really pulling back. We're not talking about lead generation. We're not going to talk about SEO. We're not going to talk about any of that kind of stuff. We're going to talk about the stuff that's insanely important. Those people that right now you possibly might be ignoring, you possibly might be not serving.
You possibly might be looking at people that you've never met before in a Facebook group, in a BiggerPockets group, somewhere online, or even a seller or a buyer out there. You possibly might be thinking of people you've never met before that are not in your family that you're probably never going to speak with or maybe speak with once or twice, and you're thinking how can I serve them, and you're not thinking how can I serve my wife?
How can I serve my husband, how can I serve my spouse? How can I serve my significant other?
So, we're going to dive into relationships in this call. It's an insanely important topic for us entrepreneurs because ambitious people have a hard time turning it off. Ambitious people have a hard time justifying and reconciling when we need to be present. When we need to turn it off, and also what the next actions are. We're going to get insanely vulnerable.
Adrian's going to bring you up to speed on his own marriage. They've been on and off again. I've been helping him to guide him through the journey just support him as a friend, and he's going to walk through what he's going through and I hope you guys respect it. I hope you guys take some cues from it. I know I did in a big way, and also hopefully you have some introspection on where is it that you need to adjust yourself.
Adrian and I both walked through some things that are working for us to have better relationships with our spouses. I can use some big time encouragement on my end as well as we talk about later in this podcast.
All right. So we love you guys. Enjoy this podcast. Please share with someone who may be working too hard, who may be working too many hours, who may not be focusing on their spouse as much as they should. Please take it to heart. Give us a rating and review on iTunes if any of this hits you at your core.